Advance Level Conversations- Series 5- Lesson 3- Talk about honesty & integrity
In this lesson, you learn 10 conversation questions about honesty with sample answers for having a normal conversation discussing honesty. We also have added 10 extra conversation questions if you decide to extend your discussion. Honesty is the foundation of trust in any relationship whether it is personal, professional, or societal. It allows us to live authentically and build genuine connections with others. But being honest isn’t always easy, and the line between truth and hurt can be delicate.
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1- What is the definition of honesty? How would you explain?
Honesty means telling the truth and being genuine in what you say and do. It’s about not hiding facts or lying, even when it’s tough. Being honest also means being real with yourself, not pretending to be someone you’re not. It doesn’t mean you have to share everything but what you do share should be true. Think of it as staying clean on the inside.
2- What do we mean when we say a person is honest? Can you describe?
When we say someone is honest, we mean they can be trusted to tell the truth and do the right thing. They’re not fake and don’t try to trick others for their own gain. You can rely on them because they’re open and straightforward. They might not always say what you want to hear, but at least you know it’s real. It’s a trait that earns respect over time.
3- Why is honesty important? How does it affect relationships or communities?
Honesty is important because it builds trust. Without trust, relationships whether personal or professional tend to fall apart. In communities, honesty creates a sense of safety and fairness. People feel they can rely on each other, and that leads to stronger bonds. Lies, on the other hand, create confusion, resentment, and distance.
4- Why is honesty so difficult at times? What factors make it hard to be truthful?
Honesty gets hard when we’re afraid of consequences hurting someone, getting judged, or facing punishment. Sometimes, we lie to protect ourselves or others from pain, even if it’s temporary. Social pressure and wanting to be liked can also make honesty feel risky. And sometimes, we’re not even clear with ourselves about the full truth. So it’s not always about bad intentions it’s about fear and uncertainty.
5- How often do you tell white lies and why? Explain
I think most people tell white lies now and then, including me. They’re usually harmless and told to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, like saying “Your cooking is great!” when it’s just okay. It’s about keeping peace or avoiding awkward moments. But too many white lies can build up and cause confusion, so I try to keep it honest with kindness. It’s all about balance.
6- Is there a price in USD that you are willing to sell your honesty? Explain
No, I wouldn’t put a price on my honesty. Once you trade your truth for money, you lose a bit of who you are. It’s like breaking a mirror; it never reflects the same again. Sure, life gets tempting sometimes, but I’d rather sleep peacefully than regret something I said or did just for a paycheck. Integrity is worth way more than dollars.
7- Why is it good to be honest? What are the positive outcomes of honesty?
Being honest clears your mind and builds trust with people. It feels good not having to remember lies or fake stories. Others start respecting you more, even if they don’t always agree with what you say. Honesty also attracts people who value truth, which leads to better relationships. Plus, being real lets you grow, because you’re not pretending all the time.
8- In your relationship, if you know for sure that your lover is dishonest, is it ok for you to reciprocate? Why or why not?
No, it’s not okay to match dishonesty with more dishonesty. Two wrongs don’t make a right, it just creates more distance and damage. If your partner lies, it’s better to confront it and figure out what’s going on. You can’t fix anything if you both start playing games. Being honest, even when the other person isn’t, shows strength and clarity about what you deserve.
9- How can someone become a habitual liar? Explain
Someone becomes a habitual liar when they start using lies to escape consequences, avoid responsibility, or get what they want. At first, it might seem harmless or useful. But over time, lying becomes second nature. It creates a loop where they lie to cover lies, and eventually it gets hard to tell what’s real. It usually starts small and grows when there’s no accountability or self-reflection.
10- Can someone be entirely honest with oneself, not others? What about the other way around? Explain
Yes, someone can be honest with themselves but still hide things from others, usually to protect privacy or avoid conflict. But the reverse is trickier: being honest with others while lying to yourself often leads to mixed signals and confusion. Self-honesty is the foundation of all honesty. If you’re not real with yourself, it’s hard to be truly real with anyone else.
More discussion questions about honesty
For a longer conversation about honesty, you can use the below discussion questions about honesty:
1- At what times do you appreciate people being honest with you? Can you give an example?
2- When have you had times when people have been dishonest with you? How did you respond?
3- How do you feel when you have been dishonest with someone? What did you learn from that experience?
4- Can one lie lead to another? Explain
5- Can you tell from body language if someone is lying to you? How? Explain
6- How can you be honest and not hurt someone? Can you think of a kind way to say something difficult?
7- Is it ever all right to give only a partial truth? What are some situations where that might be acceptable?
8- Children are generally truth tellers, so at what age usually people start lying or practicing dishonestly? Why?
9- They say honesty is the best policy. Do you think this applies to high government officials? Explain
10- Are there people that you do not trust? What made you feel that way about them?
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