Advance Level Conversations- Series 3- Lesson 8- Talk about sex
In this lesson, you learn 10 conversation questions about sex with sample answers for having a normal conversation discussing sex. We also have added 10 extra conversation questions if you decide to extend your discussion. Sex is a natural part of human life, but it’s often surrounded by taboo, mystery, and strong opinions. Talking about it openly helps us understand ourselves, others, and societal norms better.
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What If Questions for Conversation
1- Do people talk about sex too much? How does this affect people’s perception of sex?
People definitely talk about sex a lot through media, social platforms, and even jokes. While this can help normalize the conversation and reduce shame, it can also lead to unrealistic expectations. Constant exposure might turn sex into just entertainment instead of something intimate or emotional. It shapes how people view relationships, sometimes promoting performance over connection. Balance is key, we need open talk, but also mindful context.
2- Who told you about the birds and the bees? Was it helpful or confusing?
I first learned about the “birds and the bees” from a combination of school, friends, and online stuff. It was a bit confusing at first because the information wasn’t always consistent or clear. Some parts felt too clinical while others were overly dramatic. But eventually, things started making sense when I could ask questions openly. Having a safe, judgment-free space to learn helped a lot.
3- Who’s the greatest sex symbol that ever lived? What made them a symbol, appearance, attitude, influence?
Marilyn Monroe is probably the most iconic sex symbol of all time. Her soft yet sultry look, breathy voice, and confident charm set her apart. It wasn’t just her appearance, it was the way she carried herself, vulnerable yet bold. She influenced fashion, pop culture, and the way femininity was perceived. That blend of glam and mystery is what made her unforgettable.
4- How bad is extramarital sex? Should personal values or societal norms dictate judgment? What are the emotional or cultural consequences?
Extramarital sex is a complicated issue, it can be emotionally damaging and hurt relationships. Whether it’s wrong often depends on personal values, religious beliefs, and cultural expectations. Society tends to judge harshly, but everyone’s context is different. The emotional fallout can be huge: betrayal, guilt, broken trust. In the end, open communication and honesty matter more than blindly following norms.
5- Do you think sex scenes in movies should be banned on TV? What age restrictions would be appropriate? How can content be balanced between art and ethics?
Sex scenes shouldn’t be banned on TV, but they should be age-restricted and handled responsibly. When done tastefully, they can add emotional depth and realism to a story. But if it’s just for shock value, it becomes exploitative. Ratings systems should be strict, and streaming platforms should offer clear content warnings. Art can explore intimacy, but ethics should guide how it’s portrayed.
6- How wrong is it to pay for sex? Is it a moral issue or a legal one?
Paying for sex is both a moral and legal issue, depending on where you live. Some see it as a choice between consenting adults, others view it as exploitation. Morally, opinions vary but some find it degrading, others think it empowers certain individuals. Legally, it’s tricky because it involves health, safety, and consent laws. Ideally, focus should be on protecting everyone involved, not just punishment.
7- If sex was a color, what would it be? Why does that color represent sex to you? Does this reflect emotion, passion, or cultural symbolism?
Sex would be red, bold, intense, and passionate. It’s the color of love, lust, and heat, and it’s often used in romantic or seductive settings. Red also signals danger or urgency, which kind of reflects how society treats sex, exciting but sometimes taboo. Emotionally, it’s about intensity and desire. Culturally, red has been linked with fertility and attraction in many traditions.
8- What do you think of the attitude towards sex in different countries? Which countries are more open, and why?
Attitudes toward sex vary a lot across countries. Places like the Netherlands or Sweden are more open and prioritize sex education and consent. On the flip side, many conservative societies still see it as taboo and shameful to talk about. Openness usually comes from better education, fewer religious restrictions, and stronger gender equality. The more informed a society is, the healthier its views on sex tend to be.
9- In your opinion, what would be an ideal age for males and females to explore sex? Explain
In my opinion, there’s no perfect age, but ideally, it should happen when someone is emotionally and mentally ready, usually late teens or early twenties. It’s less about age and more about maturity, consent, and self-awareness. Rushing into it under pressure or without understanding can cause confusion or regret. Both boys and girls should feel safe to explore at their own pace. Education and support make a huge difference.
10- Marshall Brain said: “The purpose of sex is to create a baby.” What do you think? Do you agree, or is there more to it? How does this view fit into modern relationships?
Marshall Brain’s quote is biologically true, but it’s only one part of the picture. In modern relationships, sex is also about connection, pleasure, trust, and emotional bonding. It helps couples feel close and maintain intimacy beyond just reproduction. For many, it’s a way to express love or explore desires together. So yeah, sex makes babies but it also builds human connection in powerful ways.
More discussion questions about the sex
For a longer conversation about sex partner, you can use the below discussion questions about sex:
1- What images spring to mind when you hear the word ‘sex’? Are these influenced by experience or media?
2- Do people in your country find it easy or difficult to talk about sex? Why do you think that is? How does this impact sexual health education?
3- How do you think schools should teach sex education? Should it be biological only, or also emotional and social? Who should be responsible, teachers, parents, experts?
4- Is sex before marriage good or bad? What factors influence your view: religion, culture, personal belief?
5- Does your government provide enough information about safe sex? Where should this information be improved? Who is most affected by lack of awareness?
6- Why do so many politicians end up in sex scandals? Is it about power, lack of accountability, or something else?
7- Why do men seem to want to have sex more than women? Is this biological, cultural, or psychological?
8- What do you think should be the legal age of consent? What should the decision be based on—maturity, health, legal precedent? How can education support informed choices?
9- Bertrand Russell said: “Civilized people cannot fully satisfy their sexual instinct without love.” What do you think? Can sex and love be separate? How does emotional connection change the experience?
10- John Updike said: “Sex is like money; only too much is enough.” What do you think about this quote? Is this a critique of desire or a celebration of indulgence?
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